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Week 45 Daily Dose of Love

 

#309 (11/5)

Betrayal by Judas

 

Matthew 26:14-16

Then one of the twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What will you give me if I betray him to you?” They paid him thirty pieces of silver.  And from that moment he began to look for an opportunity to betray him.

 

Mark 14:10-11

Then Judas Iscariot, who was one of the twelve, went to the chief priests in order to betray him to them.  When they heard it, they were greatly pleased, and promised to give him money. So he began to look for an opportunity to betray him.

 

Luke 23:3-6

Then Satan entered into Judas called Iscariot, who was one of the twelve;  he went away and conferred with the chief priests and officers of the temple police about how he might betray him to them.  They were greatly pleased and agreed to give him money.  So he consented and began to look for an opportunity to betray him to them when no crowd was present.

 Judas was with Jesus from the beginning of his ministry.  He appeared to be a loyal disciple, but he had his own agenda.  Biblical scholars speculate that Judas expected Jesus to overpower his captors and begin a revolution that would free Jews from the oppressive Roman occupation. 

Judas shows us what can happen when we set aside love for our own agenda.  Even the noblest mission can blind us if we do not keep love at the center of our efforts.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

When are we most likely to make decisions that are not based on love?

 

Principles of Love:

Decision

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love

   

#310 (11/6)

Preparation for Passover

 

Matthew 26:17-19

On the first day of Unleavened Bread the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Where do you want us to make the preparations for you to eat the Passover?”  He said, “Go into the city to a certain man, and say to him, ‘The Teacher says, My time is near; I will keep the Passover at your house with my disciples.’ ”  So the disciples did as Jesus had directed them, and they prepared the Passover meal.

 

Mark 14:12-16

On the first day of Unleavened Bread, when the Passover lamb is sacrificed, his disciples said to him, “Where do you want us to go and make the preparations for you to eat the Passover?”  So he sent two of his disciples, saying to them, “Go into the city, and a man carrying a jar of water will meet you; follow him, and wherever he enters, say to the owner of the house, ‘The Teacher asks, Where is my guest room where I may eat the Passover with my disciples?’  He will show you a large room upstairs, furnished and ready. Make preparations for us there.”  So the disciples set out and went to the city, and found everything as he had told them; and they prepared the Passover meal.

 

Luke 22:7-13

Then came the day of Unleavened Bread, on which the Passover lamb had to be sacrificed.  So Jesus sent Peter and John, saying, “Go and prepare the Passover meal for us that we may eat it.”  They asked him, “Where do you want us to make preparations for it?”  “Listen,” he said to them, “when you have entered the city, a man carrying a jar of water will meet you; follow him into the house he enters and say to the owner of the house, ‘The teacher asks you, “Where is the guest room, where I may eat the Passover with my disciples?” ’  He will show you a large room upstairs, already furnished. Make preparations for us there.”  So they went and found everything as he had told them; and they prepared the Passover meal.

 Passover was an elaborate Jewish ritual where lambs were sacrificed at the temple and then eaten with unleavened bread to commemorate Moses leading the Jews from Egyptian oppression and slavery to freedom. Jesus chooses this time to perform the supreme sacrifice of giving his life to lead us away from the oppression of worldly ambition toward the freedom of his father’s everlasting love.  

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we prepare for the moment when we give up our life to our loving father?

 

Principles of Love:

Acceptance

 

Pray Through the Day:

Not my will

But yours be done

  

#311 (11/7)

Washing the Disciple’s Feet

John 13:1-20

Now before the festival of the Passover, Jesus knew that his hour had come to depart from this world and go to the Father. Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end.  The devil had already put it into the heart of Judas son of Simon Iscariot to betray him. And during supper Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going to God, got up from the table, took off his outer robe, and tied a towel around himself.  Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was tied around him.

He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?”  Jesus answered, “You do not know now what I am doing, but later you will understand.”  Peter said to him, “You will never wash my feet.” Jesus answered, “Unless I wash you, you have no share with me.”  Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, not my feet only but also my hands and my head!”  Jesus said to him, “One who has bathed does not need to wash, except for the feet, but is entirely clean. And you are clean, though not all of you.”  For he knew who was to betray him; for this reason he said, “Not all of you are clean.”

 

 After he had washed their feet, had put on his robe, and had returned to the table, he said to them, “Do you know what I have done to you?  You call me Teacher and Lord—and you are right, for that is what I am.  So if I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.  For I have set you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.  Very truly, I tell you, servants are not greater than their master, nor are messengers greater than the one who sent them.  If you know these things, you are blessed if you do them.  I am not speaking of all of you; I know whom I have chosen. But it is to fulfill the scripture, ‘The one who ate my bread has lifted his heel against me.’  I tell you this now, before it occurs, so that when it does occur, you may believe that I am he.  Very truly, I tell you, whoever receives one whom I send receives me; and whoever receives me receives him who sent me.”

 There is no clearer expression of love than selfless service.  Jesus knew that he was closer to God than anyone on earth, yet he humbled himself by taking on a subservient role to show us that love requires both humility and service. Service based on love leaves no room for ego or self-satisfaction.  Jesus has repeated this message throughout the gospels, and he reminds us once again on the night before his death.  Faith requires that we serve God and each other.  True service comes from a heart that is open to God’s love as well as to the needs of his children.  

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we make humble service a regular part of our lives?

 

Principles of Love:

Humility

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us be humble

So we may love

   

#312 (11/8)

Jesus Foretells His Betrayal

 

Matthew 26:20-25

When it was evening, he took his place with the twelve; and while they were eating, he said, “Truly I tell you, one of you will betray me.”  And they became greatly distressed and began to say to him one after another, “Surely not I, Lord?”  He answered, “The one who has dipped his hand into the bowl with me will betray me.  The Son of Man goes as it is written of him, but woe to that one by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been better for that one not to have been born.”  Judas, who betrayed him, said, “Surely not I, Rabbi?” He replied, “You have said so.”

 

Mark 14:17-21

When it was evening, he came with the twelve.  And when they had taken their places and were eating, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, one of you will betray me, one who is eating with me.”  They began to be distressed and to say to him one after another, “Surely, not I?”  He said to them, “It is one of the twelve, one who is dipping bread into the bowl with me.  For the Son of Man goes as it is written of him, but woe to that one by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been better for that one not to have been born.”

 

Luke 21:21-23

But see, the one who betrays me is with me, and his hand is on the table.  For the Son of Man is going as it has been determined, but woe to that one by whom he is betrayed!”  Then they began to ask one another which one of them it could be who would do this.

 

John 13:21-30

After saying this Jesus was troubled in spirit, and declared, “Very truly, I tell you, one of you will betray me.”  The disciples looked at one another, uncertain of whom he was speaking.  One of his disciples—the one whom Jesus loved—was reclining next to him; Simon Peter therefore motioned to him to ask Jesus of whom he was speaking.  So while reclining next to Jesus, he asked him, “Lord, who is it?”  Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.” So when he had dipped the piece of bread, he gave it to Judas son of Simon Iscariot.  After he received the piece of bread, Satan entered into him. Jesus said to him, “Do quickly what you are going to do.”  Now no one at the table knew why he said this to him.  Some thought that, because Judas had the common purse, Jesus was telling him, “Buy what we need for the festival”; or, that he should give something to the poor.  So, after receiving the piece of bread, he immediately went out. And it was night.

 Jesus gives Judas a chance to change his mind by opening his heart to him.  Jesus had just washed his feet, shared a meal with him, and said that he is ready to give his life out of love for all humanity.  Somehow Judas missed the whole point of it. Judas must have thought that he was doing the right thing.  He likely justified his actions in his own mind with a logical and rational argument.  The problem was not in his logic, but in his heart.  He let his ambition crowd out receptivity to Jesus’ love.  Good decisions involve both mind and heart.  Judas made the worst decision any human being has ever made by not consulting his heart.  

Reflection/Discussion:

When might a narrow, fixed conviction or vision close our hearts and limit our openness to God’s universal love?

 

Principles of Love:

Decision; Vision; Opening

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love

   

#313 (11/9)

The Last Supper

 

Matthew 26:26-29

While they were eating, Jesus took a loaf of bread, and after blessing it he broke it, gave it to the disciples, and said, “Take, eat; this is my body.”  Then he took a cup, and after giving thanks he gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you; for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.  I tell you, I will never again drink of this fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new with you in my Father’s kingdom.”

 

Mark 14:22-24

While they were eating, he took a loaf of bread, and after blessing it he broke it, gave it to them, and said, “Take; this is my body.”  Then he took a cup, and after giving thanks he gave it to them, and all of them drank from it.  He said to them, “This is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many.  Truly I tell you, I will never again drink of the fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new in the kingdom of God.”

  

Luke 21:14-20

When the hour came, he took his place at the table, and the apostles with him.  He said to them, “I have eagerly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer; for I tell you, I will not eat it until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God.”  Then he took a cup, and after giving thanks he said, “Take this and divide it among yourselves; for I tell you that from now on I will not drink of the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.”  Then he took a loaf of bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.”  And he did the same with the cup after supper, saying, “This cup that is poured out for you is the new covenant in my blood.

 Jesus tells us to eat his body and drink his blood so we can allow his love to penetrate every cell of our being.  He lets go of everything but love to show us the way to his father’s heart. Love and self-sacrifice are the main components of the new covenant, the agreement we make with God in order to enter his kingdom.  The terms are very simple but they create an immense challenge.  God agrees to love us.  We agree to love him and each other.  It is as clear and as difficult as that.  

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we sacrifice our self-interest “in remembrance” of Jesus?

 

Principles of Love:

Compassion; Decision; Commitment

 

Pray Through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your creation

   

#314 (11/10)

The New Commandment of Love

 

John 13:31-35

When he had gone out, Jesus said, “Now the Son of Man has been glorified, and God has been glorified in him.  If God has been glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself and will glorify him at once.  Little children, I am with you only a little longer. You will look for me; and as I said to the Jews so now I say to you, ‘Where I am going, you cannot come.’  I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

 Ten commandments were given to Moses.  Jesus summarized the ten into two when he described the greatest commandments: To love God with our whole heart and to love each other as ourselves. Now, on the night before his death, Jesus summarizes the entire message of his life and ministry into one commandment that consists of a single verb: Love. 

When we love as Jesus did, we fully open our minds and hearts to God and each other.  That is all we need to do.  Do that, and everything else will fall into place.  Or, as St. Augustine said: “Love, and do what you will.”  

  

Reflection/Discussion:

How do we “love one another” day-to-day?

 

Principles of Love:

Unity; Opening

 

Pray Through the Day:

Bring us together

In your love

   

#315 (11/11)

Peter’s Denial Predicted

 

Matthew 26:30-35

When they had sung the hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives.  Then Jesus said to them, “You will all become deserters because of me this night; for it is written, ‘I will strike the shepherd, and the sheep of the flock will be scattered.’  But after I am raised up, I will go ahead of you to Galilee.”  Peter said to him, “Though all become deserters because of you, I will never desert you.”  Jesus said to him, “Truly I tell you, this very night, before the cock crows, you will deny me three times.”  Peter said to him, “Even though I must die with you, I will not deny you.” And so said all the disciples.

 

Mark 14:26-31

When they had sung the hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives.  And Jesus said to them, “You will all become deserters; for it is written, ‘I will strike the shepherd, and the sheep will be scattered.’  But after I am raised up, I will go before you to Galilee.”  Peter said to him, “Even though all become deserters, I will not.”  Jesus said to him, “Truly I tell you, this day, this very night, before the cock crows twice, you will deny me three times.”  But he said vehemently, “Even though I must die with you, I will not deny you.” And all of them said the same.

 

Luke 22:31-34

“Simon, Simon, listen! Satan has demanded to sift all of you like wheat, but I have prayed for you that your own faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.”  And he said to him, “Lord, I am ready to go with you to prison and to death!”  Jesus said, “I tell you, Peter, the cock will not crow this day, until you have denied three times that you know me.”

  

John 13:36-38

Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, where are you going?” Jesus answered, “Where I am going, you cannot follow me now; but you will follow afterward.”  Peter said to him, “Lord, why can I not follow you now? I will lay down my life for you.”  Jesus answered, “Will you lay down your life for me? Very truly, I tell you, before the cock crows, you will have denied me three times.

   It is when we believe that our faith is strongest that we are at greatest risk for betraying Jesus.  Peter was a strong-willed man, but faith is not simply a matter of willpower; it requires openhearted, receptive love. Human will can gather great strength to force, push, and persevere until a goal is met or a task accomplished.  But putting too much emphasis on willpower limits our vision and receptivity so that we can turn away from God without even being aware of it. 

God’s will is based on the enduring strength and clear vision of love.  We tap into that strength by remaining open to him.  Our own willpower can, at times, interfere with that.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

When might our will might interfere with our openness to God’s love?

 

Principles of Love:

Commitment; Humility

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us to love

When our will is weak