Bob Van Oosterhout

Problem Solving - Responding Effectively to Problems
Support Opportunity & Service Circles - A Neigborhood Organizing Tool
About Bob (...What about Bob?)
Anger and Impulse Control
Anxiety, Depression, PTSD
Behavioral Health Integration with Primary Care
Bring Truth to Fear: We CAN Work Together
Hard Times Cafe Model of Empowerment
Links to Videos for Online Stress Management at LCC
Managing Chronic Pain and Headaches
Mental Health
Moral Philosophy
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Practical Psychology: What Works and Makes Sense
Problem Solving - Responding Effectively to Problems
Slow Down and Lighten Up
Spiritual Writing
Stress Management
What Works
Resume/Curriculum Vitae
Comments, Suggestions, Discussion

Solving a problem in isolation with a narrow focus can lead to more problems

The best first step is usually a step backwards


Video - ABC's of Stress Management

video - More on The ABC's (Common Features of a Healthy Recovery)

Essential Principles of Problem Solving - graphic

Essential Principles of Problem Solving - Description

See Clearly with an Open Heart

     Stop the build-up of Tension
     Proper sleep, diet, balance between rest and types of activity
     Balance personal needs with needs of others

     See situation as starting point without blame, judgment, or “should”
     See the dignity and potential of people involved
     Recognize and adapt to limitations

     Ask questions to see a larger picture and relevant details more clearly
     Immediate, short-term, long-term, or ongoing?  What’s most important?
     What are the: values? boundaries? assumptions? expectations? Etc.

Compassion recognizes the dignity and potential of each person.  It involves looking at life from another person’s perspective without judgment while understanding how circumstances contributed to forming his or her behavior, attitude, and outlook.  True Compassion requires the capacity to briefly experience the emotions of another.  It allows other people to be fully themselves in our presence.  Compassion connects, includes, and opens.  It is not a thought or idea.  It’s something we experience.  People are touched by compassion and it allows us to be in touch with them.

Hope recognizes there is a best way to handle every situation and that each one of us has an inborn capacity to improve our lives and world.  

Humility recognizes that placing ourselves above or below another person diminishes us both.  Humility allows us to see ourselves as part of a greater whole, to realize that we have an important but limited role, and to explore how and where we best fit in contributing to and improving our world.  

Personal Responsibility looks at what I can do to improve the situation while taking into account what others have to contribute without blame, judgment or “should.”