Principles of Love and Daily Prayer
Suggestions for Practice
Love is a living, moving force that comes from God and passes through us to the rest
of creation. The Principles of Love were derived from reflection on the components of that force as it is described
in the Gospels. These principles form a brief summary of what prepares us to allow God's love to penetrate and pass
through our hearts. Each passage of the Daily Dose of Love lists one or more Principles of Love that seem to be evident
in that reading along with a brief prayer that can be repeated throughout the day.
The Principles of Love were developed to help us discern limitations in our capacity to receive and share God's
love. We become more receptive and responsive to God and each other when each of the principles is evident in our thoughts
and actions. We can compare the Principles of Love to a set of gears that allows a machine to use a single source of
power to perform a complex task. When all the gears are moving smoothly, the machine effectively carries out the job
it was designed to do. If one gear gets stuck, the machine stops.
The
Gospels make it clear that our task on earth, the purpose of our creation, is to love. But the world creates obstacles
that interfere with love, much like dirt and rust block the smooth movement of gears in a machine. The Principles of
Love can help us identify obstacles to the movement of God's love through our hearts. The Daily Prayers provide
a simple, specific way to respond to this need.
We can build the
Principles of Love into our spiritual practice by regularly asking "How well did I love today?" A review of
the principles can help us discern where we tend to get stuck while trying to integrate God's love into daily life.
Each of the prayers listed in the Daily Dose of Love corresponds
to one of the principles. Think of the prayers as a lubricant that helps open our heart and free us to accept the power
of God's love so that it flows through us to the rest of creation. The Daily Prayer was designed to be repeated
throughout the day whenever our mind is not occupied. Each prayer contains a simple rhythm that allows it to be said
silently as we breathe (first line as we breathe in, second line as we breathe out) or carry out regular activities.
Repeating the Daily Prayer that corresponds to a Principle of Love that we are struggling to follow helps us to be aware of
obstacles that interfere with the flow of God's love through our hearts.
There are dozens, if not hundreds, of opportunities to use these prayers in daily life. We can slowly repeat
one of them while washing our hands, getting dressed, doing household chores, or driving. They can become part of any
repetitive task or regular movement, and are particularly effective when walking, running, or exercising. It is not
difficult to establish habits and routines where we are able to say one of these prayers hundreds or even thousands of times
per day. It is an effective way to respond to Jesus' command to "Pray always."
There is also a practical benefit to using the Daily Prayer. We tend to dwell on what's
wrong when there is stress or tension in our lives. This kind of thinking increases tension, which limits our receptivity
and openness as it pulls us to focus even more narrowly on the problems in our lives. The result is an escalating cycle
where we become increasingly tense and worried.
Repeating one of
the Daily Prayers refocuses our mind on what we need from God as it breaks up mental habits that build stress and tension.
As the prayer is repeated, we spend less time dwelling on negativity. They can be particularly helpful during times
of pain when focusing on discomfort increases its intensity. When our minds are regularly focused on God, habits of
worry diminish, much as a seldom-used path through a field grows over and disappears. As the Daily Prayers become more
entrenched in our minds, it becomes easier to call on one of them whenever we feel troubled or stuck.
Distractions and old habits will interrupt the Daily Prayer, especially when we first begin to practice.
This is to be expected. When we recognize that our thoughts are elsewhere, we simply label whatever we were thinking
about as a "distraction" and return to the quiet repetition of the prayer. Each time we are distracted and
return to the prayer we are training our mind to let go of diversions and focus on what we need from God. The mental
discipline that results from regular practice with the Daily Prayer is an invaluable tool that helps us focus on what is most
important in any situation.
Using the Principles of Love and Daily
Prayer in a regular maintenance program can help to keep the parts of love moving together so that we are more able to integrate
God's love into our daily lives.
The Daily Dose of Love includes
an index of Principles and Prayers, which identifies the Gospel passages where each principle was evident and the dates each
prayer was recommended. (The first principle listed corresponds to the prayer for that day.) Reflecting on one
or more of these gospel passages can help us to see how Jesus applied that principle during his time on earth.
It is best to choose only one Principle and Daily prayer for each day, especially at
the beginning of practice. This allows awareness of the principle and the prayer to become more fully integrated into
daily life. With regular practice, the Principles, Daily Prayers and God's love can become an increasing part of our life
and interactions as we open our hearts to God and each other.
Principle | Description | Daily Prayer |
Nature | Love is our true nature. | We were created From God's love |
Unity | Love unites and connects us with all of creation. | Bring us together In your love |
Humility | Humility
is a prerequisite to love. | Help
us be humble So we may love |
Opening | Love is a process of receptive opening. | Open our hearts To your love |
Acceptance | Love requires acceptance. | Not my will But yours be done |
Compassion | Love involves compassion, care and concern for all of creation. | Open our hearts To your creation |
Decision | Love is a conscious
decision. | Help
us always To choose love |
Commitment | Love involves a deepening commitment to fulfilling the potential of
another. | Help us to love When our will is weak |
Vision | Love leads to vision that is clearer and more complete. | Open our eyes To deepen our
love |
Forgiveness | Love involves forgiveness. | Lord, Jesus Christ Have mercy on us |
Suffering | Suffering
deepens our capacity to love. | Use
our pain To deepen our love |
Learning | Love is an everlasting learning process. | Open our hearts and minds To your love and wisdom |