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Week 17 Daily Dose of Love

 

#113 (4/23)

Expectations of Disciples

 

Matthew 10:37-39

“Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.”

 There is a huge difference between worldly love that serves us and true love that serves God and others.  Love that serves us is not really love in the truest sense of the word.  True love seeks the good of the other without regard for self-interest.  True love recognizes that we cannot reach our full potential unless the best interests of everyone are taken into account.  True love is diminished to the extent we separate, isolate or prefer one more than another. We may be strongly attached to our father, mother, son, or daughter but attachment is very different than love.  Attachment creates tension by clinging to a belief in what “should be”.  When our own self-interest gets tangled up in another person’s life, it not only undermines love but complicates and diminishes our lives and theirs. Loving Jesus opens our heart to the world.  Clearly we are likely to be closer to those we are related to and spend the most time with, but our love for others is enhanced rather than limited by close relationships that are not complicated by attachment or self-interest. 

We love God first, because he is the source of love.  Trying to love others before God cuts us off from the origins and roots of love.  A tree shrivels and dies when its roots are damaged, but when the roots are watered and nourished the tree grows strong and tall so its branches can reach to the heavens.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

How do we tell the difference between true love and worldly love?

 

Principles of Love:

Nature; Unity; Commitment; Humility; Suffering

 

Pray Through the Day:

We were created

From God’s love

   

#114 (4/24)

Rewards of Discipleship

 

Matthew 10:40-42

“Whoever welcomes you welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. Whoever welcomes a prophet in the name of a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward; and whoever welcomes a righteous person in the name of a righteous person will receive the reward of the righteous; and whoever gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones in the name of a disciple—truly I tell you, none of these will lose their reward.”

 The reward for opening our heart is having an open heart.   An open heart is welcoming and compassionate, accepting and empathic.  When we open our heart to another person, we open our heart to God’s presence within them and us.  God knows us inside and out, and he accepts us for who we are.  We may turn away from him through action or intent, but he never turns away from us. We are precious in his eyes and he loves us fully and completely no matter what we do. 

God’s love is eternal.  It transcends life as we know it.  It is greater and more profound than we can imagine.  When we love, we become more open, receptive, and accessible to God’s love.  There is no better reward than that.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we recognize God’s love in other people?

 

Principles of Love:

Opening; Unity; Acceptance; Compassion

 

Pray Through the Day:

Open our hearts

To your love

   

#115 (4/25)

John the Baptist’s Question

 

Matthew 11:1-3

Now when Jesus had finished instructing his twelve disciples, he went on from there to teach and proclaim his message in their cities.  When John heard in prison what the Messiah was doing, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?”

 

Luke 7:18-20

The disciples of John reported all these things to him. So John summoned two of his disciples and sent them to the Lord to ask, “Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?” When the men had come to him, they said, “John the Baptist has sent us to you to ask, ‘Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?’ ”

 John the Baptist is the last person in the world you would expect to have doubts about Jesus.  John was Jesus’ cousin.  He “leaped for joy” in his mother’ womb when Mary came to visit Elizabeth.  He spent his life preparing for Jesus’ arrival.  But in the dark depths of prison, he began to doubt.  Even the deepest and most profound love can doubt at times. John didn’t try to hide his doubt or overpower it with logic or pumped up enthusiasm.  He confronted and clarified it.  He brought his doubt to Jesus. 

Doubt is a human characteristic in an uncertain world.  Jesus regularly criticized the scribes and Pharisees for their certainty and self-righteousness but there is no criticism of John for having doubts.  Doubt that is openly clarified never weakens us.  In fact, responding thoughtfully and prayerfully to questions raised in doubt deepens our faith and capacity for love.  The desire for certainty is based on fear.  Certainty provides the illusion of safety and control and diminishes our need for God and each other.  God understands that there are many things we do not understand.  He can handle our questions and uncertainty.  There’s no doubt about that.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

What are some ways we can seek clarification for our doubts?

 

Principles of Love:

Humility; Acceptance; Learning

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us be humble

So we may love

   

#116 (4/26)

Jesus Replies to John the Baptist

 

Matthew 11:4-6

Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have good news brought to them. And blessed is anyone who takes no offense at me.”

 

Luke 7:21-23

Jesus had just then cured many people of diseases, plagues, and evil spirits, and had given sight to many who were blind. And he answered them, “Go and tell John what you have seen and heard: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, the poor have good news brought to them.  And blessed is anyone who takes no offense at me.”

When viewed in the context of God’s love for his creation, we are the blind and lame.  We have been isolated, deaf, and dead.  Jesus helps us to see what life is really about.  He makes it possible for us to walk steadily in his love so we can share it with everyone we meet.  Jesus connects us with the rest of humanity. He helps us listen to the needs of the world and respond with loving-kindness.  He forgives and accepts us so that even when love appears dead, new life can sprout within our hearts.  He gives us hope and sustenance so that we may live with him in joy and love for all eternity.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

How can we recognize where we need healing in our capacity to love?

 

Principles of Love:

Unity; Opening; Compassion; Learning

 

Pray Through the Day:

Bring us together

in your love

   

#117 (4/27)

Jesus Talks About John the Baptist

 

Matthew 11:7-15

As they went away, Jesus began to speak to the crowds about John: “What did you go out into the wilderness to look at? A reed shaken by the wind?  What then did you go out to see? Someone dressed in soft robes? Look, those who wear soft robes are in royal palaces.  What then did you go out to see? A prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. This is the one about whom it is written, ‘See, I am sending my messenger ahead of you, who will prepare your way before you.’ Truly I tell you, among those born of women no one has arisen greater than John the Baptist; yet the least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he. From the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force. For all the prophets and the law prophesied until John came; and if you are willing to accept it, he is Elijah who is to come. Let anyone with ears listen!”

 

Luke 7:24-30

When John’s messengers had gone, Jesus began to speak to the crowds about John:  “What did you go out into the wilderness to look at? A reed shaken by the wind? What then did you go out to see? Someone dressed in soft robes? Look, those who put on fine clothing and live in luxury are in royal palaces. What then did you go out to see? A prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. This is the one about whom it is written,  ‘See, I am sending my messenger ahead of you, who will prepare your way before you.’ I tell you, among those born of women no one is greater than John; yet the least in the kingdom of God is greater than he.” (And all the people who heard this, including the tax collectors, acknowledged the justice of God, because they had been baptized with John’s baptism.  But by refusing to be baptized by him, the Pharisees and the lawyers rejected God’s purpose for themselves.)

 Heaven is the place where there are no limits on love.  No one before Jesus had been more committed to bring love to our world than John the Baptist.  Yet compared to the love that awaits us, he is small and insignificant. We can never achieve perfect love here on earth.  There’s always more to do.  

Reflection/Discussion:

What can we do to prepare the way for the Lord this day?

 

Principles of Love:

Humility; Opening

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us be humble

So we may love

   

#118 (4/28)

Jesus Expresses Disappointment

 

Matthew 11:16-19

“But to what will I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to one another, ‘We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we wailed, and you did not mourn.’ For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon’; the Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look, a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds.”

 

Luke 7:31-35

“To what then will I compare the people of this generation, and what are they like? They are like children sitting in the marketplace and calling to one another, ‘We played the flute for you, and you did not dance;” we wailed, and you did not weep.’ For John the Baptist has come eating no bread and drinking no wine, and you say, ‘He has a demon’; the Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Look, a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Nevertheless, wisdom is vindicated by all her children.”

 

Jesus compares “this generation” to children in the marketplace who are disappointed that others do not respond to their play.  He then expresses his own disappointment at the criticism of his attempt to bring love to our world.

 There’s always something else to do. There’s always something to criticize.   There are dozens of reasons not to love in any given situation, especially when it might be difficult or challenging.  

We can easily pass opportunities to love.  One by one, we can miss them until our heart becomes calloused and love seems absent from our world.  We need to learn to love under all sorts of conditions and circumstances.  Jesus’ love is here, in our hearts, right now.  All we need to do is respond to it.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

How is it that it is so easy to become involved in gossip and criticism of others and so difficult to love?

 

Principles of Love:

Decision; Opening

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love

   

#119 (4/29)

Woe to You

 

Matthew 11:20-24

Then he began to reproach the cities in which most of his deeds of power had been done, because they did not repent. “Woe to you, Chorazin! Woe to you, Bethsaida! For if the deeds of power done in you had been done in Tyre and Sidon, they would have repented long ago in sackcloth and ashes. But I tell you, on the day of judgment it will be more tolerable for Tyre and Sidon than for you.  And you, Capernaum, will you be exalted to heaven?  No, you will be brought down to Hades.  For if the deeds of power done in you had been done in Sodom, it would have remained until this day.  But I tell you that on the day of judgment it will be more tolerable for the land of Sodom than for you.”

 

Luke 10:13-16

“Woe to you, Chorazin! Woe to you, Bethsaida! For if the deeds of power done in you had been done in Tyre and Sidon, they would have repented long ago, sitting in sackcloth and ashes. But at the judgment it will be more tolerable for Tyre and Sidon than for you. And you, Capernaum, will you be exalted to heaven?  No, you will be brought down to Hades.  Whoever listens to you listens to me, and whoever rejects you rejects me, and whoever rejects me rejects the one who sent me.” 

 Love demands a response.  It must be accepted or rejected.  At any give moment, we can find lots of reasons for not responding to love.  We’re tired, too busy, preoccupied with something else... 

When we reject love, we reject the source of life; we reject the only thing that transcends life, as we know it.  Everything else on this earth will eventually die or fade away. Only love is eternal. Rejecting love ultimately leads to death, destruction, and desolation.  When an entire community or culture rejects love, it is sad for them and for us.

  

Reflection/Discussion:

In what situations or under what conditions are we most likely to reject love?

 

Principles of Love:

Decision; Learning; Suffering

 

Pray Through the Day:

Help us always

To choose love